I was talking with someone recently who complained to me that she “felt unloved” because her husband never got her anything on Mother’s Day. I shared her husband’s opinion and told her so; she wasn’t his mother, and they had no children, therefore she is not a mother, which the holiday is for. She got very upset and said that it “shouldn’t matter”, because she takes care of the house and cooks.
I take care of the house and do all the cooking too, but I have never expected anything from my husband for Mother’s Day. I know it’s trendy these days for women to want more recognition for the things they do, but I think this is pushing things a little far. For me, Mother’s Day has always been a holiday for women who are, well, mothers such as my own, and it just seems greedy to want in on that. I understand most wives and girlfriends do a lot for their men, but ladies, this holiday isn’t FOR us. I was always under the impression that Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, or birthdays were sufficient for this sort of thing.
Ladies (and men, too), what’s your take on this? Should a woman who isn’t a mother expect to get a present on Mother’s Day from her significant other? Does she have valid reasons to be upset when she does not?
It seems to me that a lot of women who are upset that they don’t get anything on this holiday tend to be women who are at odds with their Mother-In-Law, and may just be upset because of the attention their husband is giving them. It may not always be the case, but I do see patterns.
Tell her to get over it. It’s mother’s day
Not wives day. Tell her she has Valentines day. The sense of entitlement is almost sickening
No unless their a mother, no present. That’s like me giving a gift to my brother saying Happy Grandparents Day?!?!
I have a step son and don’t expect or want anything for mothers day. I’ve know hime since he was 3 and he’s 12 1/2 now. I’m not his mom. If you have not kids shut up and get over it. I lost a baby 10 years ago and I don’t want anything from a step child. she needs to get over herself and grow the bleep up!!
Isn’t Sweetest Day(hallmark holiday) valentines day birthday, Christmas, and anniversary enough…..Geesh! Tell you friend to get over it. No she does not deserve a gift on mothers day. I’m a single father and the most I get on fathers day is a happy fathers day wish, hugs and smooches from my girls…..I’m good with that. But I never expected anything when I wasn’t a father. Oh and by the way I also take care of the house, cook, clean, and everything else. So I’m covering both spectrum’s of the mother and the father roll……Should I get something on mothers day too?…..lol
Should people who aren’t Americans get to celebrate the fourth of July?
Should people who aren’t Christian, Catholic, or a variant get to celebrate Christmas?
Should people who aren’t Chinese get t celebrate Chinese New Year?
If they want to, that’s their business.
There’s no harm being done because she wants some extra-recognition one more day out of the year. Perhaps it’s Wife’s Day in her mind.
I give my mother presents on Father’s Day as well as Mother’s Day simply because she was a single-parent.
It’s her concern how she chooses to spend her days as long as nobody else is being negatively affected.
I some what agree with you. Prior to me becoming a mother I did not want anything from my husband for mother’s day because I was not a mother. So we celebrated it with his mother or my grandmother or another family that wasn’t a mother.
On my 1st Mother’s Day I got the most special gift, a necklace of a mother and child that I will treasure forever. It was special to me not because it was jewelry but because it was my 1st Mother’s Day.
I often see the women who get upset about not getting a Mother’s Day gift when they aren’t mothers as greedy and only care about the value of gifts and nothing else.
Since then I treasure the homemade hand prints and poems or drawings or not having to cook and clean that day as the best Mother’s Day gift.
Well BOO HOO for that woman. Being a mother, a good mother, is all about being selfless. The things I do for my family and kids and taking care of the house, the volunteer work at the school and the church, is for the betterment of us all, as humans in the walk of life, it is not about getting thanks once a year on a commercial holiday that was enacted into law by a body of men!
I feel very indebted to my own mother for my life and all she has done for me, and try to honor her always, and my way is to always be thanking her, doing things to lighten her load–if I am out shopping and see something she would like, such as a book, or her favorite cheese, or a bird feeder (her hobby is bird-watching) I’ll pick it up for her..but it’s not about buying her “stuff”–it’s about making her life easier and making her feel appreciated.
As far as non-mother’s expecting a Mother’s Day gift from her husband/mate, that is just crazy! What would that say, anyway? Thank you for mothering me? Well, that isn’t the healthiest model for a romantic relationship, is it?
Some women who are not mothers are like mothers to other people, and I do honor some women in that way–but it has to do with them giving love, time and attention to me, or my children, or children of our church or the school–it has NOTHING to do with taking care of the house.
I cannot figure out why some people “expect” a gift from anyone…for me it would take the joy out of it…a gift should be given from the heart, not dictated by the calendar, or Congress, for Heaven’s sake.
Tell that dame to go buy herself a box of choclates and eat herself silly…
Mother’s Day is for Mother’s-a special day just for them.
But that said that includes Mothers-To-Be (with child), Step-Mothers, Grand Mother’s, God Mother’s, Mother-In-Law, a lady who raised you like a Foster Mother and such or someone who is like a mother to you like an Aunt or your neighbor or a friend.
Even though a husband treats a wife as his mom that does not count as you are not his mother so he should not give you gifts.
I am a Step-Mom, Aunt and a friend & neighbor who gets called Aunt but I don’t get gifts or even calls. It would be nice if my hubby would tell me Happy Mother’s Day from his kids though but not from him as I am not his mom. He calls me Mom because of them.
if they’re not a mother, but they’re a mother “FIGURE” to someone, then yes…otherwise..get over it! it’s called mothers day for a reason…